May 2, 2021
Hi friends. This week we will be talking about acceptance. I’m sure there’s been times in all of our lives when we have had to accept a thing or two. Whether that was a situation that was our of our control or something that we had a hand in and made a mistake, acceptance mostly circles back to having inner peace and self love. These are themes we discuss often and this is your weekly reminder to love yourself.
Check out my last article for how to start your self love journey and while you’re there I have a ton of other great reading material!!
I am in the process of revamping the website, making new merchandise and steadily posting to social media. Something I have been thinking of doing is vlogs for mini subjects that I wouldn’t necessarily need a whole article for. As always, thank you for coming on this journey with me. I never expected all of the love and support I’ve gotten from what started as my online journal. Journaling was never easy for me until I realized I could help others. Now on to this week’s topic.
Accepting some things is hard.
Like, really hard. Sometimes accepting that a situation is out of your control is the hardest thing you have to do. I have some coping mechanisms and advice (as always!!) and some personal experience with this topic. For those of you who don’t know, along with having multiple chronic illnesses I also struggle with depression and anxiety. Needless to say I’ve had to accept a lot of things. As a recovering control freak, I’ve learned a thing or two over the years. It is human nature to want to “fix” things. Sometimes we sit and think to ourselves,
“There HAS to be a solution!”
The bad/good news is: More often than not that solution is letting the universe run its course. How could this be good? You have no choice?! Well, there are some positives to finally accepting that we do not control everything around us.
One of them is we finally learn not to take life so seriously. Think of how much stress you carry on your shoulders by trying to have your thumb over every single thing in your life. That isn’t helpful to anyone, most importantly not you.
Once we learn to let go of the illusion of control I promise you will be so much happier.
Often times people admire my willingness to go with the flow and it honestly comes back to acceptance. I am just along for the ride. Sure there are things that I do have control over and I celebrate those as often as I can. I would recommend making a list (mental or physical) of things you CAN control.
Mine would look something like: “My hair, my water intake, my food intake, my rest, my clothes, my jewelry, my attitude,” and much more. Once we realize all of the things we do have control over, it’s time to separate things out that we do NOT have control over.
These are some things on my list: “My physical health, my fatigue, other people’s emotions and actions, the weather, traffic, other people’s stress levels,” and MUCH MUCH more. Doing lists like these really keep things in perspective.
There was a quote I heard the other day and it said “not a lot of things are important.”
…and that really resonated with me. Especially now in my life when I am finding new happiness in the mundane. I don’t have to have a flawless complexion or spotless house. I don’t have to have hobbies that other people enjoy. I can live for ME. That’s something I want you to take with you today, friends. The sooner you let go of the illusion of control, the happier you will be. Imagine how stress free you can be by removing the worries of things you can’t change. There is no use in worrying about such things. The only person it’s hurting is yourself. There isn’t always a solution.
Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t grieve or be upset. I actually encourage it. It is so important to look inward and ask ourselves “why am I feeling this?” There isn’t always an answer, but that also comes back to having grace with yourself. (See how everything ties together? I’m doing my best here!) Life isn’t sunshine and rainbows 24/7. It just isn’t. Never will be.
But the sooner you let go of control, the sooner you realize that the most important thing in life isn’t being “better” or “perfect” the sooner you will unlock a new level of self worth and happiness.
Thanks for reading, friends.
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